Gale Mayness Joins LLiNYC as Cohost

The Victator here: I’m beyond excited to announce the addition of my new cohost, Gale Mayness! You may know her from our episode on cunnilingus. I have no doubt she will bring hilarity, sluttiness, and overall badassery to the show. Her cohosting debut will soon be released on our episode on group sex. Until then, check out her bio on our “About” page.

WNYC, Note To Self List LLiNYC as “Magnificent” Women Hosted Podcast

We’re beyond humbled to be recognized by WNYC and Note To Self’s “Magnificent List of 111 Female-Hosted Podcasts (And Counting).” That said, we’d prefer if they used the term “women” over “female,” as many trans women do not identify as the latter.

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Episode 11 – Boobs

Recorded live via, in which Chip, Sugar Tits, and Boomer join the Victator as we all touch NuBritt’s breastesies and discuss boobs, nipple play, masturbating in porta potties, idiots on the internet, Backstreet Boys vs. ‘Nsync, boobie parties, nipple clamps, boob induced orgasms, sexual post-game recaps, those who like nip play and those who do not, squirting, whether straight dudes can be attracted to the Victator, Chip’s break up, vampires and bisexuals on Law & Order SVU, how Queens is hella gay, and the awful attack against a transgender woman at Stonewall. Check out Chip’s blog, Boobs of Bushwick and go to A Night of a Thousand Genders, a gala benefit for the Ackerman Institute’s Gender & Family Project.

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Episode 10 – Intimacy (Farts)

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which Jax pinch hits as Cohost (Isaac’s taking a leave) and we discuss scissoring (there’s no crying in scissoring), the Victator’s comments in Cosmo, LLiNYC’s listing as one of the best sex podcasts, intimacy and what that means, farting in front of your partners, dutch ovens, picking your lover’s acne, being a timid tinkler (pee!), financial differences in relationships and how to handle them, and knowing what you want in life and how hard it is to talk about when you don’t. NuBritt follows up from Nantahala River, NC and gets intimate with our listeners as she discusses big changes in her personal life, how she’s sapiosexual, how someone being sexy does not equal sexual or emotional compatibility, that being with honest with others requires being honest with yourself, how she’s happiest in pjs with a book, the intimacy of dive bars, lesbians in Savannah GA, and emotional consent. Follow Jax on instagram @JaxRichter.

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LLiNYC Makes Thrillist’s 11 Best Sex Podcasts

While the title says “11 Entertaining Podcasts About Sex,” you can’t ignore the word “best” in the url:

Per the article: “Livin’ and Lovin’ in NYC – The show’s logo and its inclusionary tactics are in good taste here, but Livin’ and Lovin’ is not for the weak of heart. Discussing all angles of the gay scene with frankness, curious queers will take great comfort in Isaac, NuBritt, and the Victator as friendly guides. New York City has an amplifying effect on dating; it’s like any other city, except that already-short attention spans are about a tenth as long. The threesome is comfortable with and confident in its subject matter, offering a voice to the underrepresented people of the gay alphabet, and doing it in the most wild ways possible.”

We at Livin’ and Lovin’ are excited but mostly humbled to be in the company of the Savage Lovecast, Love and Radio, and Death, Sex & Money.

Episode 9 – Dating and Fucking after Divorce

Recorded live via KPISS.FM, in which the Victator and Isaac and special guest Robbyn discuss the Victator’s post on Dan Savage’s Love Letter of the Day, reusing sex toys with new partners, dating and fucking after divorce, lesbian bed death – a thing?, when your vagina is a BIG GAPING WOUND, how your sexual interests and desires change depending on who you are with and as you get older, asking for what you want and how that is sometimes easy and sometimes difficult, sex toy briefcases!, height preferences in partners, strap-on dangers, sex after hysterectomies, DOUBLE FISTING IRL WHAT, having sex with your clothes on, public sex, and Young Cecilia’s amazing piece on Flux Weekly. NuBritt follows up at Large in Barranquilla, Colombia and talking about her marriage and divorce, how love is not enough, slutting it up in NYC, asking new questions, coming out as bisexual, bisexual invisibility, tossing that salad, knowing what you want, accidentally ending up in a relationship cause the sex is good, the minefields of sex talk, the smorgasbord or “plat du jour” of sexual experiences, the greatness of prioritizing your own pleasure, how ass play between heterosexual people is still stigmatized, ggg fundamentals, sexy PSA, and be kind out there.

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Episode 8 – Mixed Orientation Relationships

Recorded not at all live and out of studio (apologies for sound quality-won’t happen again), in which Jax Richter and Catherine join us as we discuss mixed orientation relationships, Jax’s weird date that won’t be repeated, transportation optimisation on first dates, how to ask those things you’re not supposed to ask, the butch box, Flippers (The Victator is *Not* a dolphin), Jaxism, and sneaky queers. Bonus content: NuBritt at Large goes deep in Appalachia with her new segment featuring bi-guy John Brown and Nubritt’s boyfriend, Sexy Not Swarthy. What do they discuss? Everything, of course! Oh and follow Jax on Instagram: @jaxrichter

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Episode 7: Generational Shifts in Queer Identity (Plus a bonus on vulnerability)

Recorded live via, in which Isaac makes his cohosting debut and Young Cecilia and Lesbian Grandma/B-Movie Maven Lola RocknRolla join us as we discuss vulnerability in recording, transitioning, as well as dating, titties at Motor City, Isaac’s neck beard, meeting one’s mate via online role play (not even the sexy kind), finger banging at Port Authority (never happened!), generational differences in discovering queerness, sexy lesbian vampire films, drywalling as a new sexual term, U-Hauling (have the young’uns really never heard of it?) queer identification vs. bisexual identification, how bisexuals perpetually get a bad rap, and the importance of queerness in pop culture (GLEE!). Also go to for Isaac’s news and culture blog, check out Lola’s campy films at, and Cecilia’s sentimental poetry at Also, the Victator doesn’t really hate lesbians (I mean, she is one).

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Bonus Minicast: NuBritt’s Goodbye (Not Really)

Recorded not quite live from NuBritt’s bed, in which the Victator and NuBritt’s butts become one, NuBritt signs off (temporarily!), the Victator threatens anyone who keeps NuBritt away, we introduce our new segment NuBritt-At-Large, NuBritt packs, and Victator poops.

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